Why Toni Gonzaga says no to sex before marriage

Posted at 02/13/14 2:30 AM

MANILA - Toni Gonzaga, who has been open about plans to settle down with long-time boyfriend Paul Soriano, said sex should wait until after she gets married.

The 30-year-old actress got candid on the topic during a live interview on "Aquino and Abunda Tonight" on Wednesday.

She said there have been instances when it proved difficult to stick to her decision.

"Sobrang hirap, sobrang hirap panindigan. Honest lang talaga ako! Mahirap talaga panindigan. Hindi naman ako magsasabi ng napakabanal ko," she said.

Gonzaga shared that she never sleeps in the same room as Soriano during trips out of town, citing this as a way of "avoiding temptation," as advised by her mom.

"You do not put yourself in that kind of situation and temptation," she said.

"Nakakaloka 'yung mommy ko, pag nanonood kami (Soriano) ng sine, out of the blue, makakakuha kami ng text na, 'Please stay away from temptation.' Ano ba 'yung mommy ko? Loka-loka rin talaga si Mommy Pinty! So bago ka pa man din magbalak, soplak ka na kay Mommy Pinty!"

Asked if she is concerned that she and Soriano may not be sexually compatible once they get married, Gonzaga was quick with an answer.

"Ako kasi, ang paniniwala ko, atsaka kung paano rin ako pinalaki, I think that love should be greater than your lust for each other," she said.

"Naniniwala ako that love should be unconditional. Hindi porke alam mo ang isang tao, dapat ang kundisyon mo, 'Dapat sexually compatible tayo.' I think that love should be the strong foundation of the marriage, and I think that the trust and the commitment that you want to stay together in the marriage [weigh more]."

The "Starting Over Again" star, who had her first-ever love scene in the film that opened Wednesday, added she would be willing to "study" sex in order to improve on it, if needed.

"Ang bagay na 'yan, napagtatrabahuhan 'yan," she said, laughing. "May mga libro, may mga seminar! Naku, a-attend ako kung kinakailangan! Gagawin ko lahat 'yan!"

Noting there will eventually be challenges in a marriage, Gonzaga said, "At the end of it all, love really does conquer all. Iko-conquer lahat ng love 'yan. If your love is stronger than your lust for each other, there's nothing you can't surpass."