Judai tells daughter Yohan about adoption

Posted at 03/18/2011 11:05 AM | Updated as of 03/18/2011 5:11 PM

MANILA, Philippines - Actress Judy Ann "Judai" Santos revealed that she has already admitted to her daughter Johanna “Yohan Lois" that she adopted her.

She has never lied to her daughter, Santos said in an interview during the press launch for Lactum milk, her first endorsement as a mother.

"Very vocal kami sa kanya. Sinasabi namin sa kanya 'yung totoo na, 'You didn't come from mama's tummy. You came from mommy's heart and we really prayed for you'," Santos said.

"Kasi nagsimula 'yan magtanong noong nanganak ako. Tapos tinanong niya ako, 'Did I also drink your milk mommy?' I had to be honest with her na, 'I'm sorry, sweetie, but no kasi ganito, ganyan,'" the actress added.

Santos said that from the time she admitted to Yohan the truth, the latter keeps on asking more questions about her life.

She’s trying to answer all of Yohan's questions, she said, since it would be more painful if her daughter finds out the truth from other people.

"Hanggang maaga pa lang, honest kami sa kanya. Kasi ayaw kong malaman niya sa ibang tao. Kasi artista ako at si Ryan [Agoncillo]. At [dahil sa] power ng Internet, pwede niyang i-Google ang lahat ng write-ups tungkol sa kanya. I-type lang niya ang pangalan niya lalabas lahat 'yan. Ayaw kong malaman niya sa ibang tao. 'Yun yata ang pinakamasakit na mangyari sa akin na ibang tao ang magsasabi sa kanya kung ano ang estado niya. So, might as well ako na lang 'di ba, na ganito pa lang kaaga ay sabihin ko sa kanya na ito ang nangyayari," she said.

The young mother also admitted that Yohan is becoming more emotional now that she understands the reality of her life.

"Mas nagiging emotional siya everytime I answer the question. But we try to answer the question in a light manner, 'yung may joke. Ang mga question niya, 'Where did I come from? Do you know my mother?' Hindi mo maiiwasang ma-hurt pero hindi mo pwedeng ipakita na mayroon kang pangamba. Pero ako panatag ako na maiintindihan niya lahat in time. Siguro ang pinagdarasal ko lang eh once na maintindihan niya ang lahat ng nangyayari ay malaman niya kung gaano namin siya kamahal," she said.

As a loving mother, Santos said she will definitely help her daughter to find more about her real mother if she wants.

“I will. She has the right to know lahat ng gusto niyang malaman. If she wants to know more, okay lang. Siyempre masakit pero go kung gusto niya. Hindi ko ipagdadamot 'yon kasi deserve niya 'yon,” she said.

Yohan as big sister

Santos admitted that Yohan is having a hard time dealing with her new brother, Lucio.

"Si Yohan naman nasa stage siya na medyo emotional ng konti kasi siya ang baby for the longest time tapos biglang may baby na dumating. So we have to keep on reminding her na, 'It's ok na ganito, ganyan lang talaga. We are family and it really happens na nagdadagdag tayo ng bagong members sa family.' We are trying to explain to her na normal ang ganitong sitwasyon at maaaring magkaroon pa ng susunod na baby," she said.

Santos said that as much as possible she and her husband Agoncillo are trying to keep Yohan closer to Lucio by giving her duties as an older sister.

"We always say na she's baby number 1 and Lucio is baby number 2 so siya ang bodyguard ni Lucio. She changes Lucio's diaper o minsan siya ang nagpapa-inom ng milk," Santos said.

Meanwhile, the actress shared her admiration for Yohan for being so smart and for taking things seriously.

She also said she felt really proud when Yohan never told her anything about Agoncillo's Valentine's day surprise for her.

Agoncillo took Santos to China for almost 5 days for their post-Valentine celebration.

"Si Yohan alam niya na pala all the time na aalis kami (ni Ryan). Kaya pala nung aalis kami, noong naligo kami, sabi niya, 'Mommy, you know what, me and Lucio will gonna miss you. You know, I will miss you.' Umakyat sa taas. Pagbaba dala na ang picture frame na may picture naming dalawa. 'Yun pala, alam niya na aalis kami. In fairness kay bagets, hindi niya niligwak na aalis kami ni Ryan. Masaya kasi very mature inatake ni Yohan ang sitwasyon," she said.

"Napakatalino at napakabait ni Yohan. Masaya kami na mayroon siyang respeto sa amin. Kapag sinabi naming hindi, hindi niya talaga gagawin. Alam niya ang no at yes, so panatag ako na masunurin," she added.