James, Kris opt to keep mum on 'separation'

Posted at 06/25/2010 9:13 PM | Updated as of 06/26/2010 10:12 AM

MANILA, Philippines- Basketball star James Yap has confirmed that he and his wife, Kris Aquino, are no longer living in the same house, and that attempts to settle their differences have so far not been successful.

Yap went to the Aquino family's house in Times St., Quezon City on Thursday and talked with brother-in-law President-elect Benigno "Noynoy" Aquino III.

Part of the conversation was about his problems with Kris, Noynoy's youngest sister.

Yap said he and his wife haven't spoken since Kris left their home Monday night. He said he has been busy with basketball practice for his game on Sunday.

He also said that he's thinking if he will be attending the inauguration of his brother-in-law on Wednesday (June 30.)

Kris, in a text message, told Gretchen Fullido of ABS-CBN News that she had a long talk with her sister Thursday night about her marriage to Yap.

She added she and James have tried to save their marriage for months now, but have been able to resolve their issues.

"Actually Gretchen, my Ate and I had a long talk last night and I would prefer to just keep my silence on the details behind our separation. I would just like to say that this unfortunate situation was something we tried many months to remedy but were unable to resolve amicably," said Kris.

Rough time

Kris' sister, Ballsy Aquino-Cruz, meantime, is asking the public to pray for her sister, who is going through a rough time with her marriage.

"Hindi naman ako natatanong ng ating payo, tahimik lang ako. Pero ang magagawa ko ay magdasal na ang lahat maging maayos kasi nangyayari naman 'yan sa lahat ng mag-asawa 'di ba?" Aquino-Cruz said.

Aquino-Cruz was in Iloilo on Friday to distribute bags and school supplies to 400 children in Cabugao Sur Elementary School and Obrero Elementary School.

A thanksgiving Mass was held at Jaro Cathedral with supporters of the president-elect.

The people around Kris are hoping that she and James will be able to iron out their issues for the sake of their children.

After days of keeping her silence, Kris appreared on her show, SNN: Showbiz News Ngayon, on Thursday night. (Click here for story.)

Kris apologized to co-host Boy Abunda and to the people of Cebu for not being able to attend the distribution of school supplies in Consolacion, Cebu on Tuesday.

This was after Abunda announced that Kris and James are having marital problems. - reports from Gretchen Fullido, ABS-CBN News; Jenel Baclay, ABS-CBN Iloilo

 


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CALOUS PEOPLE WITH NO COMPASSION

PEOPLE HERE WHO ARE SO NEGATIVE HAVE NO LIFE AND WAS GREEN WITH ENVY. I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR ACTION AND YOUR BEHAVIOR TOWARDS THE INNOCENT AND KIND PEOPLE LIKE THE AQUINOS WHO HAVE NO OTHER AGENDA BUT TO HELP BETTER YOUR LIFE. THEIR WILLINGNESS TO FIGHT BACK CORRUPTION AND THEIR SACRIFICES TO OBTAIN AND RESTORE OUR DEMOCRACY AND FREEDOM THAT WE CONTINUE TO ENJOY HERE IN OUR COUNTRY IS ABOVE AND BEYOND. YOUR CONSTANT CRITICISM IS AS SHARP AS YOUR UGLY PERSONALITY AND YOUR EMPTY HEART IS AS COLD AS THE COLD WINTER SNOW AND YOUR BLOTTED BRAIN IS AS CORRUPT AS THE PREVIOUS ADMINISTRATION.

YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF FOR CONTINUING TO BELITTLED THESE PEOPLE WHILE YOU CONTINUE TO ENJOY AND STILL PARTAKE THE FRUIT OF THEIR LABOR OF SACRIFICE. I, FOR ONCE WANTED TO THANK THE BRAVERY OF NOYNOY AQUINO AND THE EVERLASTING SUPPORT FROM THE AQUINO SIBLINGS TOWARDS THEIR ONLY BROTHER. MOST OF ALL, I THANK GOD THAT FINALLY THERE IS SOMEONE LIKE NOYNOY AQUINO AND THE AQUINO SISTERS WHO ARE WILLING TO CARRY THE CROSS THAT THEY DOES NOT DESERVE SO.

HATS OFF TO THE AQUINOS FOR BEING HUMBLE AND FOR BEING A GOOD ROLE MODEL TO THE CITIZEN AND THE NEW GENERATION OF THE PHILIPPINES.

GOD BLESS!


SAD FAREWELL

LIHAM NI NINOY KAY NOYNOY

August 25, 1973

Fort Bonifacio

11:30pm

Mr. Benigno S. Aquino III

P E R S O N A L

My dearest Son:

One of these days , when you have completed your studies I am sure you will have the opportunity to visit many countries. And in your travels you will witness a bullfight.

In Spanish bullfighting as you know, a man – the matador – is pitted against an angry bull.

The man goads the bull to extreme anger and madness. Then a moment comes when the bull, maddened, bleeding and covered with darts, feeling his last moment has come, stops rushing about and grimly turns his face on the man with the scarlet “muleta” and sword. The Spaniards call this “the moment of truth.” This is the climax of the bullfight.

This afternoon, I have arrived at my own moment of truth. After a lengthy conference with my lawyers, Senators Jovito R. Salonga and Lorenzo M. Tanada I made a very crucial and vital decision that will surely affect all our lives: mommie’s, your sisters’, yours and all our loved ones as well as mine.

I have decided not to participate in the proceedings of the Military Commission assigned to try the charges filed against me by the army prosecution staff. As you know, I’ve been charged with illegal possession of firearms, violation of RA 1700 otherwise known as the “Anti-Subversion Act” and murder.

You are still too young to grasp the full impact of my decision. Briefly: by not participating in the proceedings, I will not be represented by counsel, the prosecution will present its witnesses without any cross examinations, I will not put up any defense, I will remain passive and quiet through the entire trial and I will merely await the verdict. Inasmuch as it will be a completely one-sided affair, I suppose it is reasonable to expect the maximum penalty will be given to me. I expect to be sentenced to imprisonment the rest of my natural life, or possibly be sent to stand before a firing squad. By adopting the course of action I decided upon this afternoon, I have literally decided to walk into the very jaws of death.

You may ask: why did you do it?

Son, my decision is an act of conscience. It is an act of protest against the structures of injustice that have been imposed upon our hapless countrymen. Futile and puny, as it will surely appear to many, it is my last act of defiance against tyranny and dictatorship.

You are my only son. You carry my name and the name of my father. I have no material wealth to leave you. I never had time to make money while I was in the hire of our people.

For this I am very sorry. I had hopes of building a little nest egg for you. I bought a ranch in Masbate in the hope that after ten or fifteen years, the coconut trees I planted there would be yielding enough to assure you a modest but comfortable existence.

Unfortunately, I had to sell all our properties as I fought battle after political battle as a beleaguered member of the opposition. And after the last battle, I had more obligations than assets.

The only valuable asset I can bequeath to you now is the name you carry. I have tried my best during my years of public service to keep that name untarnished and respected, unmarked by sorry compromises for expediency. I now pass it on to you, as good, I pray, as when my father, your grandfather passed it on to me.

I prepared a statement which I intend to read before the military commission on Monday at the opening of my trial. I hope the commission members will be understanding and kind enough to allow me to read my statement into the record. This may well be my first and only participation in the entire proceedings.

In this statement, I said: Some people suggested that I beg for mercy from the present powers that be. Son, this I cannot do in conscience. I would rather die on my feet with honor, than live on bended knees in shame.

Your great grandfather, Gen. Servilliano Aquino was twice condemned to death by both the Spaniards and the American colonizers. Fortunately, he survived both by a twist of fate.

Your grandfather, my father was also imprisoned by the Americans because he loved his people more than the Americans who colonized us. He was finally vindicated. Our ancestors have shared the pains, the sorrows and the anguish of Mother Filipinas when she was in bondage.

It is a rare privilege for me to join the Motherland in the dark dungeon where she was led back by one of her own sons whom she lavished with love and glory.

I ended my statement thus: I have chosen to follow my conscience and accept the tyrant’s revenge.

It takes little effort to stop a tyrant. I have no doubt in the ultimate victory of right over wrong, of evil over good, in the awakening of the Filipino.

Forgive me for passing unto your young shoulders the great responsibility for our family. I trust you will love your mother and your sisters and lavish them with the care and protection I would have given them.

I was barely fifteen years old when my father died. His death was my most traumatic experience. I loved and hero-worshipped him so much, I wanted to join him in his grave when he passed away. But as in all sorrows, eventually they are washed away by the rains of time.

In the coming years, I hope you will study very hard so that you will have a solid foundation on which to build your future. I may no longer be around to give you my fatherly advice. I have asked many of your uncles to help you along should the need arise and I pray you will have the humility to drink from their fountain of experiences.

Look after your two younger sisters with understanding and affection. Viel and Krissy will need your umbrella of protection for a long time. Krissy is still very young and fate has been most unkind to both of us. Our parting came too soon. Please make up for me. Take care of her as I would have taken care of her with patience and warm affection.

Finally, stand by your mother as she stood beside me through the buffeting winds of crisis and uncertainties firm and resolute and uncowed. I pray to God, you inherit her indomitable spirit and her rare brand of silent courage.

I had hopes of introducing you to my friends, showing you the world and guide you through the maze of survival. I am afraid, you will now have to go it alone without your guide.

The only advice I can give you: Live with honor and follow your conscience.

There is no greater nation on earth than our Motherland. No greater people than our own. Serve them with all your heart, with all your might and with all your strength.

Son, the ball is now in your hands.

Lovingly,

Dad


MGA KULANG SA PANSIN!

MAY DIPERENSYA BA KAYO SA UTAK? ...LAHAT NA LANG YATA NG NANGYAYARI SA BUHAY NYO BINABALITA NYO ...NAMPUCHA! MAGHIWALAY KAYO KUNG MAGHIHIWALAY! HINDI YAN SINASABI, GINAGAWA YAN! ...NAG-ASAWA KA KASI NG BURGIS NA TULAD NI KRIS, YAN ANG NAPALA MO, WALANG KASIYAHAN SA BUHAY YAN SI KRIS, SISIRAIN KA LANG NYAN, HIWALAYAN MO YAN... NOW NA! ...KASI GUSTO NI MANONG JOHNNY... HAPPY KA! ...HAHAHA!


Kung ako si James...

I'd be very uncomfortable that they're talking about our private married life. I know they're public figures, pero sa ganitong sitwasyon, dapat silang dalawa na lang ang umaayos nyan. Di na kailangan malaman pa ng public


Kris seems to be magnifying &

Kris seems to be magnifying & sensationalizing their marital issues to vie for public attention & sympathy. She is being portrayed as the underdog and james is the offending party.

There is no such thing as perfect marriage. Every marriage has got it's own issue. Kris & james marital issue is an issue that normally occurs to married couple. It's resolution depends on how ta couple will handle it. If they discuss it between themselves only, its very likely they will arrive to a solution and keep their marriage back on track again. But if the couple involve other parties or the public just like what kris did when she broadcasted it, then expect a full blown problem that lead to bye bye.


Pls keep it as your bad secret

I am just very sorry that this family left behind by their good parents, Ninoy and Cory, are threading a wrong way. Why are they sharing their personal problems to the whole world. They claim to be a good catholics but their ways are not. Bad example that is now happening between Kris and James should be kept among themselves and should not be broadcasted to the world. Gagayahin pa ito ng mga kabataan ang hiwalayan sa pamilya. Hindi ganyan ang Katoliko. Sa hirap at ginhawa ay nagsasama, inaayos ang gusot at hindi iniisip ang hiwalayan. Akala ko matitinong mga anak, hindi pala. Mga tsismoso at tsismosa. Sarilinin ninyo na lang sana ang mga baho ninyo. Nagiging masamang influence lang kayo sa kabataan. Ipinakikita ninyo na dasal kayo nang dasal hindi naman ninyo sinusunod ang kautusan nang Diyos at simbahan. Presidente pa naman ang kapatid ninyo eh ang baho naman nang mga ibinubulalas ninyo. Kayo na lang sana ang umamoy nang mabaho ninyong mga utot


Buhay nilang mag asawa yan. Let them be...

Di ko nga alam kung bakit pinag uusapan pa to. Mga sira ulong reporter, maghanap naman kayo ng ibang topic. Ilang beses sa isang taon nag aaway ang mag asawang yan. Di pa ba kayo nagsasawa gumawa ng istorya?


It's in the genes

I think that the ABNoy genes really runs in their family, look at Kris' first child and look at ABNoy you won't miss the similarities. It could be that Kris is going bye bye for not being assigned the first lady job yet kaya naloloka na sa kasabikan.


Boy Abunda, Number One Tsismosa

Yang baklang yan wala nang ginawa kundi ang pakialaman ang buhay ng may buhay. Akala mo kung sinong matronang tagasigaw ng eskandalo nitong mag asawa. Mabuti pa siguro magsama na lang kayong dalawa ni Noynoy sa isang condo, tutal pareho naman kayong kalbo at walang asawa.


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A Wrong View of Marriage

When coming together in marriage, husbands and wives usually develop their own natural, human plan for marital happiness. The couple’s separate plans are based on the unique personalities and personal differences of each partner, including different family influences, role models, books, and often-different church experiences. Because their plans for marriage happiness are different, conflict usually results.

Since each of us is self-centered, we constantly want to know what our spouse has done for us lately. Sadly, as time passes, we subconsciously revert to the “greener pasture syndrome” where we begin to compare our spouse’s performance with our own pre-conceived ideas and expectations, making satisfaction with our spouse more and more elusive.

Six Factors That Destroy Marriages

Following are the six primary factors that destroy marriages. They are commonly found in natural, human relationships:

1.

Couples fail to anticipate differences resulting from diverse cultural backgrounds, differing family experiences, gender, and so on.
2.

Couples buy into the notion of a “fifty-fifty” relationship, meaning they honestly expect their spouses to meet them halfway.
3.

Society has taught us that mankind is basically good. Therefore, couples fail to anticipate their self-centered natures that demand their own way.
4.

Couples fail to cope with life’s trials. When painful trials come into the marriage, instead of standing together through them, couples tend to blame each other or think something is wrong with the spouse and the way they handle the pain.
5.

Many people have a fantasy view of love. They quickly feel stuck with an unloving person and become deceived into believing that the next one will be better.
6.

Many people lack a vital relationship with Jesus Christ. It could be that they have never come to a specific point in time when they asked Christ into their lives and therefore He has no impact on the marriage relationship.

I heard the book called, "The Road Less Travel" is a mind opener, Kris.

"When injustice becomes law, Resistance becomes duty!" - Thomas Jefferson


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